Don’t get your revenge by trying to impress them with how far you have come without them. Get your revenge by learning to love yourself. Get your revenge by living the best life possible and not caring whether they notice or not.
Thought Catalog
Hey guys,
I had absolutely no idea what to write today. I had been super busy since this morning and together with being busy came a complete lack of inspiration. So at 6.45pm, I decided that I had to do something about it and I went back to one of my favourite things to read. Thought Catalog. Now I actually discovered Thought Catalog a while ago, and they actually have a really great collection of very relatable and very thought provoking articles and I love them so much.
One other thing they have is an astrology section and I’m a sucker for that haha.
So I went there and the first thing that jumped out at me was this Astrology Article, titled ‘The Words Of Encouragement You Need To Hear Right This Minute, Based On Your Zodiac Sign’. It was a quick read, as with most articles, but here we are.
The quotes all make a lot of sense and I might unpack them all one day, but I’m a proud Gemini, so that explains the quote I chose today.
I think this is something I’m guilty of doing very often. I am someone who tends to push myself to do well and excel in whichever area I choose to invest time in. But the motivation behind that action? Sometimes, it’s not for myself, but rather, because I want to prove someone wrong. I just need to quote one example and it all becomes so obvious.
If you read my blog, you’ll know exactly which incident I’m talking about, but if you don’t it’s fine, the story still makes sense. When I was 16, I was really hurt by a guy. It took me a while to work through my emotions, but by the time my 17th birthday came, I was completely over him. But I still invited him to the party (I had a friends only chalet for my 17th), not because I had worked through the feelings and still treated him like a friend (no I can almost guarantee that we will never be friends), but because I wanted to show him that even after he was no longer a part of my life, I still had many friends whom I loved and loved me, people I can have fun and go crazy with. Essentially, the decision to invite him was one made out of spite, of me wanting to prove that he was insignificant in my life. Ironically, he still managed to make me feel that I was even more insignificant in his, but that’s a story for another day.
The point being, I was doing exactly what the quote advised against. I was trying to get my revenge by showing them how far I can go without them, but the action in itself already meant that I didn’t go very far, because I still cared about how they saw me.
There is nothing wrong with pushing myself to excel in areas I have an interest in, but ultimately, what I am trying to do is to try to shift my mindset from one of doing it to prove something to others, to one of doing it for myself.
Perhaps I can invite you to do the same if you aren’t already? It won’t be easy trying to change our mindsets but we can do it together!!
One Step At A Time 