Do things for people, not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.
Harold S. Kushner
Hey guys, posting a little later today because I was kinda busy but here it is.
Do you sometimes feel like you’re already giving it everything you’ve got, yet, somehow, you’re still not appreciated for your effort? I know all too well how that feels. But today, I am here to encourage the tired soul. TLDR: everything that you’re doing is a reflection of who you are, whether or not people appreciate the actions, that’s a reflection of who they are.
If knowing my story will encourage you, well, here it is. I’m not going into details, because I’ve since come to terms with it and I don’t really wanna publicise my sob story and any platform, but if you read enough of the things I wrote as I was in my healing process (they’re all on my blog), you’ll actually have a pretty good idea of the details. Of course, if you really wanna know more you can always just DM me and I’ll be more than happy to talk to you. But long story short, for no particular reason, I was never really appreciated for who I am in my family (not referring to my parents, but the extended family). Things weren’t going too well on the friendship front either, I was investing so much in the friendships that I ignored red flags and ended up getting really hurt.
It was difficult, yes, but eventually I came to the realisation that whatever happens, I did what I did because that’s who I am. And if others are going to make use of that fact to do certain things to hurt me, then in a way, I can’t change that because their actions are their choices and it’s not something I have a say in. All I have control over, is how I react and how I choose to move on from it.
Everything in life is a choice and in fact, looking back, I stand by every choice I made, and I am honestly really happy with the kind of person I am. That’s not to say I have no flaws, sure I do, in fact, I have plenty of flaws and plenty of things I still need to work on, but that is me as a person.
From every single person who hurt me, I saw traits and characteristics that I didn’t like, things that I didn’t agree with, and things that I would be absolutely horrified at if I was doing the same.
I believe that everyone comes into your life for a reason. And these people came in to teach me exactly who I didn’t want to be. And these are valuable life lessons that I’m really thankful for.
To wrap up, I just wanna say, continue to live your life your way and make your own decisions, because that’s how you build your own character and your own identity. Constantly learn and try to make ‘you’ a better and improved ‘you’. Give life your all, and never ever regret giving it your all no matter how hurt you end up being. Because you giving it your all reflects who you are, and them hurting you reflects who they are. The end result is simply you knowing who is worth your time and who isn’t. And is that not a valuable realisation?
Ultimately, I’m not sure how else to put this but your actions reflect who you are as a person and their actions do the same for them. The million dollar question is, what kind of person do you want to be?
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Also, I realised I forgot to do this shoutout yesterday, but I really wanna hear your thoughts too!! Share them with me in the comments below:D
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